"This just isn't working out.",
"Maybe we should see other people?",
"We just weren't meant to be.",
"I am better off without you anyway.",
"Can we still be friends?"
Break-ups are tough, we know.
Take it from a girl who has dated... We'll just say... a lot of guys.
Some of the worst things can be said, and you may shout, with words pouring out of your mouth that you never dreamed you would even whisper.
Whether you are a girl or a guy; relationships are not easy at a young age, or well, any age really. It doesn't matter if you are twelve or forty nine, you have to make sacrifices and compromises to make things work. We are not saying you need to change yourself, but sometimes tweaking and adjusting make you stronger.
So, to the main point. What do you do in the face of a bitter break-up?
First, THINK before you speak, message, tweet, text, email or post!! This is EXTREMELY important. Don't say or do rash things that you will regret later. This advice is coming from someone who knows that making a mistake like this can make a huge impact, and you can't take it back... ever!
Second, take a moment to breathe. If you are the dumpee, then you may use this time to write, draw, paint, workout, etc., Whatever makes you feel better about the situation and yourself. But what ever you do, do NOT do anything that will cause you or anyone else physical or mental harm, e.g; punch a wall, cut, burn, carve words into your skin, beat yourself up about it, or lash out at others.
Once you have calmed down over a couple hours or even a few days, you need to immediately make contact with the dumper. It is recommended that you do so face to face or through phone calls, (no text or IM!), just so that nothing is misinterpreted. Talk calmly with an even but interested tone. Refrain from shouting, or bad body language. You need to respect your (ex)partner's decisions and they need to respect yours.
You will not always remain friends. At some point you have to realize that some people may stay in your heart, but not in your life. You need to accept this in order to move on. DO NOT try to change who you are in order to try to get this person back. Let it go, and if it comes back, it's truly yours, and if it doesn't, then it never really was. I am using all of these cheesy sayings because for the most part, they are true.
In conclusion, breakups SUCK! :/
XoXo,
The Tean View Team
"Maybe we should see other people?",
"We just weren't meant to be.",
"I am better off without you anyway.",
"Can we still be friends?"
Break-ups are tough, we know.
Take it from a girl who has dated... We'll just say... a lot of guys.
Some of the worst things can be said, and you may shout, with words pouring out of your mouth that you never dreamed you would even whisper.
Whether you are a girl or a guy; relationships are not easy at a young age, or well, any age really. It doesn't matter if you are twelve or forty nine, you have to make sacrifices and compromises to make things work. We are not saying you need to change yourself, but sometimes tweaking and adjusting make you stronger.
So, to the main point. What do you do in the face of a bitter break-up?
First, THINK before you speak, message, tweet, text, email or post!! This is EXTREMELY important. Don't say or do rash things that you will regret later. This advice is coming from someone who knows that making a mistake like this can make a huge impact, and you can't take it back... ever!
Second, take a moment to breathe. If you are the dumpee, then you may use this time to write, draw, paint, workout, etc., Whatever makes you feel better about the situation and yourself. But what ever you do, do NOT do anything that will cause you or anyone else physical or mental harm, e.g; punch a wall, cut, burn, carve words into your skin, beat yourself up about it, or lash out at others.
Once you have calmed down over a couple hours or even a few days, you need to immediately make contact with the dumper. It is recommended that you do so face to face or through phone calls, (no text or IM!), just so that nothing is misinterpreted. Talk calmly with an even but interested tone. Refrain from shouting, or bad body language. You need to respect your (ex)partner's decisions and they need to respect yours.
You will not always remain friends. At some point you have to realize that some people may stay in your heart, but not in your life. You need to accept this in order to move on. DO NOT try to change who you are in order to try to get this person back. Let it go, and if it comes back, it's truly yours, and if it doesn't, then it never really was. I am using all of these cheesy sayings because for the most part, they are true.
In conclusion, breakups SUCK! :/
XoXo,
The Tean View Team
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